“The most dangerous man isn’t one who doesn’t like you — it’s the one who keeps you around with no future in mind.”

Do you know what’s funny? I’ve been doing some thinking and realized that women don’t lose time to men who hate them, they lose time to men who “kinda” like them.

The men who find her interesting but are still unsure about her. God forbid he lets you go and regrets it. That’s why he would rather keep you around at your expense, so he doesn’t have to worry about making a mistake.

You’re taking the full burden of risk. That’s why I wanted to write this article. I want to show you what I believe are the top 5 clearest signs that you’re talking to a guy using you as an insurance policy.

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He Is Great At Buying Time

Have you heard any of these phrases before:

• Let’s go with the flow.
• Let’s play it by ear and see what happens.
• I like to take things so and let it happen naturally.
• I’m open to a relationship only if it’s with the right person.

These are what I like to call “Buying Time” phrases. They’re phrases that men use to get more time to entertain the assets you offer without paying for the cost of a relationship.

Here is the way a lot of men work:

If he likes you and the assets you offer BUT is unsure about a relationship, he’s not going just to cut you off. He’s in an excellent position and knows you’re hopeful of something manifesting. He’s going to throw in these phrases to give you hope which buys him more time. In reality, he already has his answer.

You know this is happening to you when you feel it’s:

• Not progressing, and instead, you’re hearing these phrases.
• The only reason you aren’t in a relationship is him (everything else is okay).
• Some of these other signs below are also at play.

Great In Person, Horrible Away

I have many clients who come to me and say, “When we are together, it’s great, but when he’s away, he never texts or initiates.”

I also have clients say, “He never initiates, but when I do or ask about plans, he immediately answers and says yes.”

This is a person who takes you for granted. The more important question, though, is why?

Men who are unsure about women tend to invest less in resources to save. If he doesn’t see you long-term and feels he already has you, why would he invest more and get the same outcome?

I can understand it’s confusing because you’re getting mixed signals but there is a reason.

When you’re away, you’re not a priority. It’s not urgent. He can’t get what HE wants when you’re away. So text is minimal. However, he still needs to make sure your needs (to some extent) are met so when you reach out and text or make plans, he’s going to text back and agree because it will benefit both of you when in person.

He’s Semi-Consistent

As mentioned above, men are conserving resources. What’s important though is what is he doing with those resources? All that extra time, energy, money, and so on.

You already know he’s talking to other women.

You have to look at his logical thinking: If I’m unsure about you, don’t see you long-term, and have all these resources, why wouldn’t I consider talking to someone else?

Men don’t take themselves off the market for women they don’t see a future with. They’ll entertain you here and there but he’s definitely talking to others.

He’s Still On The Apps

I shouldn’t even have to put this here, but it’s such an obvious sign that it can’t be overlooked. And here is the funny thing:

Many of you will catch a guy still on the apps and confront him, but believe him when he says, “I never get on there, it’s just on my phone.” Yeah ok. The primary reason to use an app is to connect with the opposite sex. If you’re satisfied with your present partner, no need for it.

To contradict myself a little, I do believe that to some extent, you shouldn’t get off the app unless you’re taken off the market. If a guy hits you with this, he’s technically right.

My rule of thumb is if you two are connecting well, it’s progressing, you have been talking for 6 weeks and both want a relationship, you should have a talk about getting off the apps. If you see a man on the apps in the first month, I would let slide.

The Relationship Is Ongoing But Not Progressing

There is a significant difference between the time you two have been dating (quantity) and the quality of your progress and growth towards a relationship. It’s very important you know the difference.

I have seen people talk for months but not get any closer to a relationship. they thought things were going well because they get along, see each other every week, and have a good time, but still remain single.

Please don’t fall for that trap. You need progression. Look at the chart below. Don’t fall for the left.

In my opinion, by the 4–5 date mark, you should start to see some type of progression in questions, opening up, and personalities meshing, among other things.

If you’re at the 2 month (8 week) mark and you aren’t in a relationship, it’s time to talk. I truly believe any time after that is borrowed time and he’s unsure about you.

Men who like you won’t keep you on the market. Men know very early what they want from you.

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