If you have ever wondered why do guys ignore you but still watch your stories on Instagram, I will let you know what he’s thinking.

Humans love clarity. That’s why, when a guy ignores you but still watches your stories, you can be confused and want to seek out answers.

I understand the pain and frustration you’re going through. As much as it hurts, you’d rather a guy completely cut you off and stop with the mixed signals so you can move on.

In this article, I will give you the clarity he won’t give you. We will go over:

• What he’s thinking.
• Why is he doing what he’s doing.
• And what will come of all this.

The reason he’s ignoring you but watching your stories is that he wants to keep tabs on you and keep you confused for his benefit. Other times, he swipes through stories, and you are in the mix. 

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Let’s go over in detail what I mean by all this.

He Wants To Keep Tabs On You

This reason is probably the most complex because it sends the most mixed signals.

We’re talking about a guy ignoring you but still watching your stories.

Why though? Here is what I think:

It’s to ensure he didn’t make a mistake and still has access/control in some way to protect his ego.

He’s ignoring you for a reason, and there are many:

• Playing games.
• Doesn’t want a relationship.
• You two are fighting.
• You did no-contact or started it, and he’s following suit.
• He doesn’t want to lead you on/you’re on different pages.
• Ego/pride battle between you two.

There are many reasons why he may be pulling away or ignoring you. However, that doesn’t mean that was his best decision. He still may be wondering if it’s the best move. That’s why watching your stories gives him a hit of validation.

It is a way for him to gain insight on the consequences of his decisions without going back on them.

He can gain a lot of insight from your stories:

• How are you doing with the whole ordeal.
• Are you talking to anyone else?
• What are you up to.

If you want to know why all this is crucial for him to know, I suggest you read this article:

Men want to make sure you feel the pain of him leaving while lowering the chances of him regretting leaving you. If he can keep tabs on what you’re up to but at the same time leave you confused about what he’s doing and why he’s doing it, he’s going to get the upper hand.

This leads me into my next point.

He Wants To Keep You Confused

I always say this powerful quote to my clients:

A confused woman is a hopeful woman.

If he’s ignoring you but watching your stories, you’re definitely going to get confused. When you’re confused, you want clarity and answers. This benefits him in several ways:

• He may be the only one to give you that clarity. Or at least, you want it from him.
• You’re wondering what the heck he’s doing.
• If you’re feeling pain, him coming back can heal it (or you may think this).
• Because you think this, you leave the door open for him so you can work things out.

I also tell my clients, “Hope is the anchor that keeps you at shore.”

If you’re confused, you may be hopeful. If you’re hopeful, you will have a harder time moving on, so you stick around. This benefits him.

It’s hard for a man to regret anything if he doesn’t have to reflect. He doens’t have to reflect if there are no consequences. There are no consequences if you do not do anything about it. That’s what he wants.

We’re risk-avoidant beings. I have no problem ignoring you if I know there is no consequence to my actions because there is no downside. I can’t regret if there is nothing to regret.

Confused women have a hard time moving on for this exact reason — that they don’t have “all the answers,” so they don’t want to regret making the wrong move.

I can’t tell you how many clients of my clients ask me:

• When do you think he’s going to come back? Will he?
• What’s he thinking right now?
• Did I do anything wrong? What can I do differently next time?

Those are all the wrong questions. That’s why he can take his sweep time returning. There is no urgency because there is no threat in you leaving.

How does he know? Because he can still look at your stories. This tells him you’re not ready to let go. High-value women do not hold onto waste.

Most Of The Time, He’s Just Swiping

You’re not going to like this, but if you’re talking to a guy who is pulling back, you can tell he’s disengaging, and treating it casually, he’s probably just swiping and comes across your stories.

I always do this, where I am not looking for specific stories. I just came across them. Then I’d have her say, “Why are you looking at my stories? I see you.”

It was a complete accident. If you’re talking to a guy who has pulled away for a while, that’s exactly the reason here.

I will say something that may contradict everything I said up to this point. Not that what I said wasn’t true. But I feel the reasons are on two different sides of the spectrum:

He probably doesn’t care as much as you think. There is a reason he’s ignoring you. He doesn’t fear losing you or care to lose you. Any interaction you have with him after that is icing on the cake.

I really do want to give you the benefit of the doubt and say he cares.

Yes, he could be curious about what you’re doing, wanting to play games, and leave you confused for the benefit of controlling the situation and returning.

But you must ask yourself, “Why is he doing that? What’s the point?”

If you can’t find a good answer or the evidence doesn’t support your answer, then you’re just not being logical.

Because guess what? There is no point.

If a guy likes you, he won’t put himself in a position to lose you. That’s exactly what he’s doing here. You’re just too emotional to realize it.

For example, if he’s ignoring you but watching your stories, that’s cool and all but if he:

• Hasn’t talked to you in awhile.
• Talking to others.
• Says he wants anything long-term.
• Has done this before.
• Doesn’t come back even though you’re begging.

Then it’s safe to assume he’s just looking at your stories as a byproduct to swiping through everyone’s stories.

There is no other reason. He’s just not sitting around justifying things. He’s not the one thinking, “I hope she doesn’t see me looking at her stories. I don’t want her thinking I am caving,” or anything like that.

I’d argue he cares so little that he doesn’t care what you think of him looking at your stories or not.

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